Generating Sparks

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The originals of these sorts of posts always irk me for a couple of reasons. Part of it is that the claim that a full figured woman is more feminine then one of slighter build does nothing to remove damaging cultural notions about beauty. If you are looking to strike back against the patriarchal society which forces the concept of beauty on women to a damaging level you gotta accept all of our sisters for their individual looks. Telling my friend Jennessa, a tiny waif of a thing, that she’s not a woman because her genetics have not blessed her with hips doesn’t improve anything. All it does is shifts who is being damaged by these cultural notions.

The other thing that irks me about these is that I have received plenty of vitriol from a girl I ran with for a while for my preference to slim women. She claimed that I was somehow a puppet of media opinions on beauty, that I was only attracted to women who looked like me out of vanity, and lots of other angry threats. In retrospect these all look like the defences of a sensitive girl who felt vulnerable because she wasn’t my ideal of beauty. Part of the psychological maturing of any person is the establishment of the things in a man or women that they will find attractive for most of the rest of their life. It gets locked in at a young age and although deviation does occur it is the base where someone judges beauty from. This was the point that she took umbrage with, she refused to accept that I could have a set of features that I found the most attractive and that this wasn’t some sort of wilful brainwashing by cultural patriarchy.

If womankind wants to be loved for there beauty whether they be tiny pixies or fertility goddess’ in disguise I demand acceptance for the things that I love regardless of where it sits on the same continuum. We need to love and accept ourselves and we need to love and accept each other.

To sum up:

I want love for everyone and ponies and shit.  

(Source: hamishmash, via juliasegal)